boyfriends with best friends

Most schools have stopped sepparating boys and girls nowadays because it is considered natural for them to grow up together, play together, be friends and learn from and about each other. Girls tend to be more mature so they can be a good influence and boys tend to be less… well, girly, so they have a lot to teach girls about fun and games and sports. Stereotypes aside, mixture is balance. Right?

But no! Then boys get girlfriends and the girlfriends won’t trust their boyfriends’ female friends because the thought of him enjoying the company of another girl is dangerous. Seriously. If you have a boyfriend who has a female bestfriend, I am going to give you some good reasons why you should be glad:

1. Because she will give him the best advice: obviously not all girls give better advice than all boys, but don’t you sometimes wish your boyfriend understood what you feel like better? Don’t you wish he could sometimes think like, well, a little bit more like a girl, just so that he would understand? The following conversation took place with some of my old high school friends:

- Boyfriend: She’s upset because I said *insert band* are way better than *insert another band*

- Male: Well, it’s not your fault if she likes crappy music. Fuck her!  Why’s she so touchy? I think that bitch is using you.

- Male #2: Dude… I don’t want to know about these silly quarrels of yours. Let’s get some beers and talk about something interesting. Did you watch the game last night?

- Female: Listen, you do usually sound like you think you know everything about music and your opinion is more worthy than hers. You shouldn’t have said they’re better, you should’ve said you like them better. You need to respect her taste!

2. Because she takes twice as much crap from him than you do, probably, and he goes on endless rants and monologues of insecurity on the phone with her to spare you the annoyance and be adorable to you.

3. Because she can help him get you nicer presents. Duh.

4. Because, however cute your boyfriend might be to you, she’s not interested in him that way. That’s why they’re best friends. And, if he’s happy with you, she likes you, too.

5. Because she might be standing up for you and giving excuses for your mistakes, but you won’t even know.

6. Because if you dump him or you fall apart, she will make sure he handles things maturely.

7. Because it means that he can relate to girls and not just boys, and that he is not a shallow pig who only uses women for sex.

8. Because she understands that you want to spend time alone with him and she’s glad that someone will straighten him out. And she’s pretty proud of him for it.

So there, girls. Don’t go all bitchy because he has a best friend… unless she’s always being deliberately naughty around him, of course. If she is, then do kick her slutty ass -metaphorically- and mostly, make sure you can trust your boyfriend with her because that’s what really matters. If you can’t trust him, kick him in the nuts -metaphorically. But don’t you go ruining friendships just because you think everyone is trying to steal your man.

I bid you farewell

This fur coat that hangs from my head (aka my hair!) has to go because it is so dense I’m spending all my money on hair products (lie), it’s usually impossible to comb (true), it takes ages to wash (true) and it makes my back sweat in the summer (disgusting, but true whatsoever). Also, I’m tired of comments like these:

‘nough said

That is creepy

The Princess Diaries? That could actually be an insult.

But mostly, I’m just bored with my hair. If you’d like to say your last goodbye, here’s a picture of my ponytail (It really is thick as a pony’s tail). It now has a portrait of its own. For eternity.

CUT

Having such long hair, I guess I’m like the paradise for any hairdresser. I mean, it’s like when you were little and you… wait, I can’t think of a metaphor at all. Well, think of it like a sculpture or like pruding trees. The more there is, the more you can try. If you don’t like it, you just cut again. And again. And again. And it’ll still be medium length. Alright, perhaps it would then be already quite short and I’d look like a boy.Anyway, I’m letting my friend Cristina have the honor of cuting some of that hair tomorrow. I’m letting her go freestyle,  I think. I’m going to the hairdresser’s on thursday and they’ll give me a proffesional hairstyle there. It might look bad. I often look like a butt with a rash when I get a new haircut but hair grows so fast it’ll be fine. I’m being brave here so help me decide. Here are some styles I’ve been looking into:

This is so hard to do...

I don't know... that's still too long isn't it?

I'm not convinced

Yes, I’m kidding.

Only about the last three pictures, thought.

Happy hair-cutting! =D

Loyalty

To put things simply, for the last months I have been feeling like everything I ever believed in turns out to be questionable or a plain fake. Or maybe the things I used to believe in are the opposite of what I wanted to believe years ago and actually, nothing is based upon anything anymore. I wish I had been taught some values I could still live with, but I’ve always been so stubborn when it comes to making my own way and choosing my own beliefs… seriously, I don’t know what I want to hold on to, I just know I need to hold on to something. Otherwise I will drown (metaphorically, of course, I’m talking about morals).

I’m sorry if this seems vague or too abstract. I had a strange dream last night that someone said something rude about a family that has always been really nice to me, and in my dream I said “Don’t you dare have a go at the *insert family name here*s in front of me again! These are good people and they are like a second family to me, I’ve got nothing but compliments for them.” And the discussion went on… the things is, it reminded me of Hagrid’s loyalty to Dumbledore and how easy friendship was when I was in grade 9. My best friend and I would have walked through flames before we’d ever  “betray” each other or give away a little secret, or whatever. Now I don’t believe in best friends anymore.

Do I believe in loyalty? Yes, I do. I mean, I’m a Gryffindor (xD). I guess what I’m trying to say is… even when it seems like I’ve lost my values, I haven’t. I’m still a loyal Gryffindor. Go ahead and laugh. Some people don’t deserve it but there are some people in my life who are worth it, and I think right now more than ever I need to have my faith in loyalty restored. I was a disappointment to my best friend once, okay. I was betrayed by my best friend (a different best friend), true. But you can’t change the rules just because someone broke them.

Enough of this “loyalty vs. independence” nonsense.

Writer’s block

So, as you might have noticed, my blog has been weirdly inactive lately -I haven’t even posted memes or nonsense. It’s not that I lack ideas or inspiration, I just can’t seem to sit down and write about them. Now that the school year is over and I have no reason to be stressed out… I hope things will get back to normal. If I’m lucky.

If you guys write, do you ever worry that it was just some teenage hobby and you’re outgrowing it? This is the one habit I don’t want to lose (I’m talking about writing, not blogging).

Friendliness, wow!

I was browsing through the special offers in music at the fnac store today when I saw Sigur Ros’s last album for 9 euros or so. As I have lost my CD somewhere and only have an empty case now, I considered buying it again. I was staring at it for a while, then decided I couldn’t spend 9 euros on a CD I’ve already bought. For all I know, it might be in another album’s case and I’ll soon find it.Then I considered buying another Sigur Ros album. I tried to listen to it but the headphones weren’t working. I thought about it again while I waited for two tourists to step aside.

But the tourists didn’t step aside. One of them turned to me and said “Don’t buy that one; it’s not so good.” I said. “Oh… really?” He said “Get this one instead, it is way better. Honestly.” He meant the new album, the one I’ve lost. I said “Aw, I’ve already got that one.” He said “Well, buy their first album, the one with an angel and a blue background. That one’s good, too. But I wouldn’t recommend this one”. I said thanks, he said cheers and  they moved away.

I didn’t buy the album because it wasn’t so cheap, but at least I didn’t buy their worst album. For some reason it made feel real good. As a general rule, I hate it when strangers talk to me. But these people just gave me genuine advice. They weren’t asking for a favour, they weren’t making fun of me and they weren’t trying to flirt. They just wanted to share their opinion as fans of the band. And trust me, it is not often you find people like this at the fnac store.

Wouldn’t i be great, though, if we all did this? At the book fair today I heard a girl telling her mom she was looking for “Sacrificio… wait, no, it’s called Traición” and couldn’t find it. I could have told her I’d seen 50 metres down the road. I could have told her Scott Westerfeld is a genius and the title should have been translated as Feos, as the original title is Uglies. I could have told her Scott Westerfeld writes a very interesting blog and that his Uglies series is way better than anything Stephenie Meyer will ever write… but I just walked away because I thought they would find it awkward if a stranger started telling them all these things out of the blue.

But wouldn’t it be great if I had been able to tell her the name of the author and the publisher so that she could find it more easily? U_U